This is part of a series of posts documenting my journey with a Working Out Loud circle, as defined in John Stepper’s book; Working Out Loud: For a better Career and Life. You can read the rest of the series here.
Friday again, and it was hard to believe we’ve reached week four of our Working Out Loud Circle journey. I’d had a particularly disrupted week, so it was great to regroup with my new friends and discuss how we’d got on.
So what did we do this week?
Once again, we started with our regular check-in. Which I find a good time to really reflect, out loud, on what has gone on during the week and what progress I have made. It’s great to hear that my fellow circle members have made good progress.
We started with the exercises from this week, reflecting on ‘Inbox Empathy’. Most of us had some good examples of people that had contacted us with zero empathy, and it was clear how it made us feel.
We then had a lengthy discussion about the tactics we use to create empathy in our initial connections with people inside and outside our network, and how we were going to use that to connect with people on our relationship list.
It was encouraging to hear that others share the same puzzles about reaching out and ensuring that you are adding value, but it’s clear that we are all going to attempt something this week.
My key takeaways
- Connections with new people are often all about context – in the example that John Stepper gives in the worksheet, the winning paragraph is that he sets the context for the email. This demonstrates the ‘why’ of the mail – not just the gift.
- We had a long discussion on the open, random, supportive approach to building a network vs the ‘screening’ approach that some of the circle use.
What did I do after the week three meeting?
- I’ve sent email connections to all the people on my relationship list – with some resources I think they might find useful – now it’s time to wait for responses!